Crushin' After Marriage?

Crushin’ After Marriage?

I want to confess that I have a crush on my neighbor. He is really cute, sweet and nice to everyone (and he’s single!) However, I cannot pursue that interest. Why? Because I am not available, I’m married. While it is true that this means I cannot pursue him in my waking life, (nor will I) I can always dream right? Of course I can! Because we cannot control our subconscious mind! I have seen him in my dreams; I have had sex with him in my dreams. I’ve even caught myself staring at him thinking about those dreams on a few occasions.

My husband knows all about it too. I hide nothing from him. I am in a relationship where we don’t keep secrets from each other. There is no need to! Though sometimes we can get jealous (mostly me) we live quite happily knowing that the other one is comfortable enough to share these deep dark secrets. Hell, even the neighbor knows that I think he’s hot! LMAO, couldn’t be from the fact that when I’m face to face with him, no matter who else is around, or if we’re alone talking in the yard or on the phone. My mind to mouth censor is broken! I cannot seem to control what comes out of my mouth when I’m around him. Yes, I have said (and done) some of the most embarrassing things around him that it’s not even funny. Well, he and my husband apparently think it is!

Yes, it’s true. Even the married men and women of the world can have crushes on someone they are not married to. It happens all the time.

You can have crushes on others and still maintain a monogamous relationship. You don’t HAVE to cross that line, just because you like someone. (Forgive me a middle school moment) Not just like, but LIKE LIKE that person.

I never make my husband feel inferior to our neighbor that would be wrong. I love my husband and to be able to look at him so many years later and still get butterflies in my stomach, that’s unusual in these times. He’s a wonderful man, a hard worker, a terrific father and he treats me like a Goddess (though I don’t know why! For the life of me, I can’t figure out why he is even with me, but I guess that makes me the Lucky One)

I’m not telling anyone to go cross that line, or if they aren’t in a relationship that is as honest with everything as mine, I don’t recommend telling your other half you’re crushin’ on a buddy of his/hers. Some people just have inferiority complexes, but it is also important that you make a decision about everything and think it through before you pursue anything! Crushin’ is one thing, cheating is something completely different and once you cross that line, you cannot go back!

~Freya