“Nobody thinks of themselves as sexy, really. Some days you go, ‘Hey, I’m not doing too bad today.’ But if you try and be sexy, you’ll never be sexy.”
Ask a Man
This page is for our "secret" man. He will tell you exactly what they are thinking, that others wont. Do you stay, or do you go? What would you like to ask him?
Men are assholes. They also are competitive, and insecure. These are the main reasons men brag about their sex lives. Usually it will start with one member of a group of friends (usually the most insecure one) bragging about his conquest.(usually embellished) That is followed by an endless line of stories, each a little(or a lot) more impressive(and embellished) in some way than the one before. Men can't help themselves. When the stories are actually true it's simply a case of a man having no respect for women. IMO it's nobodies business what sex partners do to each other, if you want to involve all your friends have an orgy, if not then stfu about your sex life.
Why does it seem that men can never grow up? Why do some insist on playing games like an elementary school student? Rather than just coming out and saying how he feels, why do they still play games and poke fun at a woman that he knows is interested? Why do they think we find it funny when they make jokes at our expense?
Ok this is simple.... men/boys don't grow up. This is something every woman needs to realize. Men are still those same boys who chased you on the playground and then hit you with a stick when they caught you. Ever notice grown men laugh at fart jokes? Perfect example. Some can hide it better than others but stay with a man long enough and you will see that little boy come out at some time or another, usually after that first peek out you will see the appearances increase the longer you are together until its like you don't have a BF or husband but a whiny man-baby.
Men do not express feelings because they don't feel emotions like women do, or for the same reasons, or as strongly, or as often, or in the same places , or.... my point is men and women deal with life in totally different ways. This does not make one side right or wrong , it makes them DIFFERENT. Men do not like emotions because it takes away the feeling of control. When a man admits to being sad then he has let some event take over his manhood and cause it to cry MEN CAN'T LOSE CONTROL not only because it is a sign of weakness but because it scares the living shit out of them. The jokes at a woman's expense? See respect above
It depends. Is it your 1st date and you are in the back seat of his car screaming at him to fist your ass? Then the answer is probably yes but if that's the case then he should be paying you so who the hell cares how he thinks of you? Talking dirty is something that has to be dealt with on a case by case basis. I would suggest you start out slow and work into it, if you are paying attention you'll notice what gets him going and what gets you a response like "I wonder whats on TV" Most men like a woman with a naughty side as long as it's expressed when he thinks its time. That means telling him you want to "suck it til he cries for mercy" is probably not the kind of thing he wants to hear at the dinner table on Xmas at his parents house right after saying grace, wait til desert.
No, not on purpose anyway. If you are a bad girl and you do get to meet mom it's because he doesn't see you as a bad girl. After you meet mom that will change because she will drill the fact into him at every opportunity, forever.
This is usually done by older men, or rednecks and they don't understand how it could be insulting for the same reason they think you should be making them a sandwich in the kitchen while barefoot and pregnant. They don't get it, they probably never will get it. I suggest you refer to them as 'toots' 'tiny' or 'i'm sorry I keep forgetting your name'. If they ask you why you are using pet names, then explain why, there may be hope for them yet
Why do men feel the need to brag about their sex lives?
ReplyDelete(posted by Moana, from our anonymous man.)
DeleteMen are assholes. They also are competitive, and insecure. These are the main reasons men brag about their sex lives. Usually it will start with one member of a group of friends (usually the most insecure one) bragging about his conquest.(usually embellished) That is followed by an endless line of stories, each a little(or a lot) more impressive(and embellished) in some way than the one before. Men can't help themselves. When the stories are actually true it's simply a case of a man having no respect for women. IMO it's nobodies business what sex partners do to each other, if you want to involve all your friends have an orgy, if not then stfu about your sex life.
Why does it seem that men can never grow up? Why do some insist on playing games like an elementary school student? Rather than just coming out and saying how he feels, why do they still play games and poke fun at a woman that he knows is interested? Why do they think we find it funny when they make jokes at our expense?
ReplyDelete(posted by Moana, from our anonymous man.)
DeleteOk this is simple.... men/boys don't grow up. This is something every woman needs to realize. Men are still those same boys who chased you on the playground and then hit you with a stick when they caught you. Ever notice grown men laugh at fart jokes? Perfect example.
Some can hide it better than others but stay with a man long enough and you will see that little boy come out at some time or another, usually after that first peek out you will see the appearances increase the longer you are together until its like you don't have a BF or husband but a whiny man-baby.
Men do not express feelings because they don't feel emotions like women do, or for the same reasons, or as strongly, or as often, or in the same places , or.... my point is men and women deal with life in totally different ways. This does not make one side right or wrong , it makes them DIFFERENT. Men do not like emotions because it takes away the feeling of control. When a man admits to being sad then he has let some event take over his manhood and cause it to cry MEN CAN'T LOSE CONTROL not only because it is a sign of weakness but because it scares the living shit out of them. The jokes at a woman's expense? See respect above
Do guys think less of a girl that likes to talk dirty?
ReplyDelete(posted by Moana, from our anonymous man.)
DeleteIt depends. Is it your 1st date and you are in the back seat of his car screaming at him to fist your ass? Then the answer is probably yes but if that's the case then he should be paying you so who the hell cares how he thinks of you?
Talking dirty is something that has to be dealt with on a case by case basis. I would suggest you start out slow and work into it, if you are paying attention you'll notice what gets him going and what gets you a response like "I wonder whats on TV" Most men like a woman with a naughty side as long as it's expressed when he thinks its time. That means telling him you want to "suck it til he cries for mercy" is probably not the kind of thing he wants to hear at the dinner table on Xmas at his parents house right after saying grace, wait til desert.
Do the bad girls ever get to meet Mom?
ReplyDelete(posted by Moana, from our anonymous man.)
DeleteNo, not on purpose anyway. If you are a bad girl and you do get to meet mom it's because he doesn't see you as a bad girl. After you meet mom that will change because she will drill the fact into him at every opportunity, forever.
Why don't men understand that calling a stranger 'darlin'' is deeply patronising and insulting?
ReplyDelete(posted by Moana, from our anonymous man.)
ReplyDeleteThis is usually done by older men, or rednecks and they don't understand how it could be insulting for the same reason they think you should be making them a sandwich in the kitchen while barefoot and pregnant. They don't get it, they probably never will get it. I suggest you refer to them as 'toots' 'tiny' or 'i'm sorry I keep forgetting your name'. If they ask you why you are using pet names, then explain why, there may be hope for them yet